Sunday, October 01, 2006

LOVE 350 and LOVE 509

hey my fellow man-beings and woman-beings. how una dey? hope y'all dey gbadun. we thank god o. me sef i dey a rice take dey inside plate. KAMPE! anywho, i was talking to my buddy Lee the other day and we got talking about naija forums, blogs and all its online bruhaha. she had noticed how more than a handful of naija female bloggers had somn to say about men, relationships, cheating boyfriends and unrepentant ex's and the whole 100 yards. this led us to the usual battle of the sexes threads you find on most naija forums. how all you hear is naijaguys this, naijagirls that, naijagirls this, naijaguys that. this has led to threads that make you wanna break a pc or somn. yeah u know wat i'm talking about dont u, i'm talking about the,"why are naija guys heartless?", "why are naija girls in the US lonely?","all naija guys are dumb","why do naija girls front too much?""naija girls act like they are the koko when they are not more than the kokoro" ati be be lo.
you would be surprised what these people have come to think of each other. its such that their generalization sometimes include their 3month old nieces and nephews who could barely keep their minds off breast milk. all in the name of painting naija guys and girls as being no good to each other. i know not everyone is into this kinikon but i wont be surprised if some of those bitter somebodies call for my head the minute they read this. but i ask them this, wat is my mouth for if it cannot say wat my head thinks about this whole naijaguy VS naija girl contraption.
i could also go on and on and start running my mouth about naija guys or naija girls or even the twice but me i dont have time for all their "why did the chicken cross the road stories" mixed in with their various arguments for and against.
what i have to say though is this, my only explanation to this whole thing is this, most of US are gradually realizing that we are no longer rug rats and sooner than later the pressure of getting settled, having a family, increase the worlds population etc etc would set in. the problem now is this, we all know deep down inside us that we mos def wanna end up with a naija person, but fact of the matter is that the lousy people (choices) we have made as regards the people we have dated or chosen to date is somewhat tormenting our being out of our sensible minds. most of us that engage in this naijagirl dissing, naijaguy bashing sessions have at one point in our pasts dated a nigerian. as much as i dont want to assume, i would still be right to say that our experiences havent been the best. it might have ended in heartbreak (or lung ache as some of us like it) but i ask you if u were blind when u decided to date him or her. do i hear u say he wasnt like that when y'al started talking and dating. OK! i agree with u but that just one person wat about guy #2, #3, #4, #5, #6,...#100. if they all started sweet and turned sour then should we all check ourselves cos i think the problem lies with us and not them. SIMPLE ENGLISH...your choice of guys or girls is rated -0 on the engineerAyo siasmic scale of 1 - 10. meaning u dont kinda sorta know how its doing you. u disagree dont you? aiight i give u the once again back down and agree that they were all no good, lying omo mummies. but dont generalize by saying all naija guys are the same and no good. most people do this and approach guys with this mind set then you wonder why guy #101 kinda sorta dont wanna date u even though you know he mos def wat u want and meets all ur pre-requisites for dating or marriage sef and sure better than guy 1-100 in all departments.

i'll finish up in part 2. till then i remain ur one and only engineerAyo

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

True talk.

Lowla said...

Kuya Ayo..
I see you made a post regarding this.. too bad I have been away.. but I know there's more talk about this issue..
I think most people are not ready to face reality jare.and as per the break up and all that.. I say one thing I always tell people.. if you find your self in a relationship.. do your best, anyhting worth doing is worth doing well,so why not just put in all what you can do, but most of all play around.. well..
if you do your best and it doesnt work out, learn from the relationship and move on.. anyways yada yada yada.. u know this topic will never end sha..

Booni.. Shey daadaa ni Awe nlo?

Mari said...

I agree with you, if your last relationship didnt work out to great, the next should be better. If it aint, something's wrong! Thats the whole point of second chances, improve.